Today a good friend is being induced, in a few short months my best friend and I will unveil a secret project, my wife is pitching screenplays and getting close to finishing a book proposal, another friend is gearing up to Kickstart her album, and this weekend I'll get to spend a long day with a team helping them dream about their documentary feature.
Last week Brene Brown, spoke what turned out to be the most tweeted quote throughout the entire Summit and some much-needed advice for those of us endeavoring to do, well, just about anything.
No matter what you're endeavoring to do, her words are potent.
You can't have both.
And if we are to get to other side of the courage equation, we need one thing: BRAVERY.
This July was Ruby's first official fireworks.
She's two and we really had no idea how it was going to go. The explosions in the sky didn't get underway until after 9 o'clock - a full two hours past her bedtime. Then suddenly with a BAM and a flash of light, we were off!
Ruby ran to the fence with the other kids, jumping up and down, pointing and reaching, trying to pluck the sparkle from the sky.
Not bad, I thought.
Then came that first, really big BOOM! The kind that unnerves even grown-ups.
While the other kinds barely noticed, our little one turned on a dime and scattered as fast as she could right for us. She scrambled up our legs and stood stiff as a board, teetering on my lap. Shaking just slightly, she looked us both straight in the eyes.
The look wasn't one of fear (yet), but one that held a tiny question behind it.
She wanted to know something.
Am I safe? Should I be scared? Am I in imminent danger? What the hell is going on dad?
We realized we had a big decision to make.
How we answered her, along with the look we gave on our faces, would tell her how she should respond in the face of fear. Maybe not every time for the rest of her life, but at least for right now in this moment.
My wife led.
Margaret smiled at Ruby and in the warmest of tones, pronounced:
"Ruby, you are so brave!"
I followed suit.
When you're afraid, whose face do you see? What words do you hear?
Fireworks, deadlines, trying to have babies, jumping off trapezes in the middle of Central Park, starting new ventures, or just having a hard conversation with a friend, these are all fear-inducing situations. And when you find yourself scrambling away from the fence, what face do you see? What words do you hear?
Are they the kind that say,
"Yes. Oh yes. You should be so scared. Those big booms might do you in! I'd duck for cover if I were you! Forever."
Or are they the kind that say,
"Yes. Oh yes. What you're doing is so scary. But look at me right in my eyes when I say this...you are so brave!"
When there is fear in our eyes, we need people in our lives who can look us straight in the face and remind us of what's true.
And the truth is simply this:
You are so brave!
Need someone to remind you?
Write us in the comments and let us know what you're afraid of.
Let our little community be that kind face for you today!